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Mattmanuel, it pains me that I must ask you for advice on this most unfortunate of unfortunate subjects. You see, I was sort of seeing a girl for a while, but most of it was long-distance, and the last time we got back together the shit hit the fan. What happened is this. I picked her up and took her out to lunch, and about halfway through the meal she casually mentioned that she'd started seeing someone else she liked more. I was totally at a loss for how to react. On one hand I wanted to maintain my image as a man of the world, strong and without a care, and laugh it off like it was of no real consequence. On the other hand I wanted to excuse myself (saying I needed to use the restroom), then run out to the car and drive away, leaving her with the check and no way to get home.
You can see my dilemna. When someone is telling you they don't find you attractive any more, should you just buck up and be a man about it? Or should you fuck with their shit as hard as humanly possible, so that they feel as bad as you do? Or is getting dumped just a no-win situation any way you slice it?
I only ask for future reference (which I hope to God I never need), since I've already dealt with this particular situation. In the end, I decided that the best thing to do was to buck up and be a man about it.
But I went ahead and did the car thing anyway.
Your Loving Admirer,
Its seems to me that this young woman did not conduct herself in the best possible manner. It was very rude of her to drop something like that on you, espescially during a meal that you probably were going to pay for. But then again, you have to thank her for doing it then so you could leave and pass the payment along to her. You did the right theing in that situation. You could have even gotten away with some drink throwing. Chicks do it on TV all the time, and it being the 2000's, I say why the hell can't Dan Strange do it? That way you could have been a man, and tell her to do you know what with her new whosey whatsey, and then make a story up about some girl... and then throw the drink. Better yet! You could have peed on her windsheild when you left too! AND THEN! When you got home, you could have taken your neighbors magazine pile and given her her every collectors plate (check bill me later) the last 2 years of Good Housekeeping could have offered! HA! Right there bizatch!
But then again, i think you did the righ tthing. Simple, to the point, high and dry.
Getting dumped involves getting out of your shorts and shirt at the same time. Watching your date constantly, grip your shirt in your teeth and slide out of your trousers, leaving on your underpants.
Now, you are ready for the leaping entry. In this leap you must attempt to leap under the table without getting out of sight of your date. You do this by spreading your legs, as you would in running, and bringing your fists down hartd of the surface of the floor.
Then you scream "I HATE YOU!! I HATE YOU!! I HATE YOU!!"
Then everyone in the restraunt will know she is stupid.
Well Mr. Strange,
I sounds like this girl was not worth the consideration of you staying throughout the meal. It would be very uncomfortable for you to stay and try and finish a meal with someone who didn't want you to be there. Of course if she had been thinking she would have let you finish your meal first and let you have the illusion that things were fine. Although if it was a long distance relationship then maybe it was better that this happened. I was once involved in a long term realtionship for two and a half years. When the break-up occured it was difficult for me to manage it even though I was the one who did it. I broke up with this person for the same reason your ex-girlfriend did. I had found someone else who was more available. It didn't change how I felt about that person it just changed my needs in a relationship. I realized I had been missing seeing a person daily. Good Luck to you and I hope that you don't feel the need to duck again.
You've probably already moved on, but for future reference, the only thing you can really do is scream a lot and wait for your heart to repair itself. Typically they say that it will take 1/2 the time you were both together to really get over it and who knows, sometimes the damage carries over for years and other times it goes away pretty quickly. But know that there are of course many nice girls out there who won't break your heart and who'll treat you like you deserve and love you for who you are. Brush yourself off and look for them.
Exactly just today in fact, was I rejected. It was really a rather sobering experience for I have rather high self esteem. Genereally if I want to know I just ask. Anyways I had liked this guy for years and of course I had figured he liked me. I almost figure he still does but would never do anything because I am involved with one of his friends which I respect. But sometimes he just lashes out. Not necessarily at me but in general because he is angry about something. God knows what. He avoids me at all possible times, yet when he actually spends time with me he never stops laughing or flirting. I have never been so confused by one person. Any suggestions?
Date other people. He blew it big time.