Tuesday February 18, 2003
 There is this guy that I've been friends with for over a year and earlier this year all he did was ask me out and was telling me he liked me and all that but I told him I was sorry but I just saw him as a really good friend.For about two months after that all we did was talk on the phone and hang out.One day I told my new friend about him and she wanted to know his number.I thought,"okay,fine,now we can all hang out and be friends,"they've been dating for the past two months now and all she does is obsess about him.He still calls me but only about once every few weeks.I didn't realize how much he meant to me until somebody else got him,now I want him back.What do I do?
piglet says:
I can see what you mean. You never really appreciate things as much until its too late and they aren't there anymore....
If you still have lingering feelings for this guy, you might want to tell him. Hopefully it won't interfere with the relationship he has now but if this is something you feel, you need to get off of you chest, I say tell him. As for you wanting him back, I wouldnt try to get him back neccessairly. If he likes the relationship he is in, don't try to mess that up because of what you want. Still talk to him if you feel you need to, but if he has a stable relationship going right now, maybe its too late. Just tell him how you feel, see how he reacts, and go from there.
Billy Kistler says:
Gimme a break.
This guy gave you his undivided attention, asked you out repeatedly, you shot him down and now that he's found someone else you're missing the attention.
Tough luck loser. Find some other chump to obsess over you.
Laughing at you,
Billy K.
superstud
Anonymous says:
i would never do that to u superstud 
Billy Kistler says:
Thanks, babe but don't crowd my style. Besides I like the gals that can S-P-E-L-L.
xxoo
Anonymous says:
The same thing happened to me recently, the only difference is, I really loved him, but I had a boyfriend that I couldn't leave. Now the guy has a g/f, and I'm just his friend, and I miss him a lot, but we are still friends...
Monkey Girl
piglet says:
Why couldnt you leave your boyfriend?
Anonymous says:
Billy do u have to be such an ass?? this gurl is going thru alot right now maybe if u were female youd understand. and as for you hun if u really really want this guy back do everything and anything u can to break them up. tell ur female friend how u feel and maybe if shes a great friend shell leave him and hes all yours!! 
Billy Kistler says:
| Quote: | | if u really really want this guy back do everything and anything u can to break them up. tell ur female friend how u feel and maybe if shes a great friend shell leave him and hes all yours!! |
You know what, Blondie? I hope someone pulls the same crap on your man someday and you're left in the dust. Then you'll come crying back to us about how much guys stink.
Watch out Adam, when Eve holds up that apple and you get a hard on, just back off. It's a dirty trick.
One for my homies,
Billy "We luv deez hoes" Kistler
Nicky_Noodles says:
You’re playing with fire and you need to put down the matches.
You are being a fickle tart. You obviously don’t really want to be with your ‘’friend’’ or you wouldn’t have been so addiment of not taking the friendship any further pre-friend/crush relationship. I don’t know what your motivation would be to tell your guy friend what you told us, other than to piss him off, and make his new girlfriend (also your friend) insecure.
I don’t think you’re ready to make the kind of commitment it will take to be fair to this guy. I don’t know what actions you could take to make you happiest. I can’t really begin to imagine. I don’t even know what would make ME happiest. All I can say to you is, you still have a lot of sorting out to do, and I don’t think you should cause this kind of upheaval in his life for not such a great outcome.
You’re all over the place and that’s ok – but you can’t be responsible for anyone else in a relationship right now. You want something and you don’t know what. It’s ok to feel that way, just give yourself the space to find out. Maybe it is your long term friend, and the two of you will get married and live happily ever after, but not right now, and not if you were to bail on him, once he gives up a committed relationship which I’m sure for him is a big thing.
I’m glad you’re still in contact with your friend; don’t blow it by fucking him around.
Billy Kistler says:
Wow Nicky,
You're were way nicer than I was. That's good advice.
I wish I had the time to be nice but I'm working on my outdoor winter camping merit badge and it is noooooo joke.
I hope when I grow up you'll go out with me.
Anonymous says:
I also had a friend for four years, and he begged me to date him. So I did and at first it was good, but then you find out things about that person and they find out things about you and you get too close. After a while things get on a sexual level, and if things don't work out you will lose your friendship. I wouldn't take the risk. B/cause the guy i was with was like my best friend and big brother and know things are akward.
Daniel Strange says:
That's right, don't take the risk, because if things don't work out you could lose the friendship. Of course, if things do work out, you could find your soul mate. But still, better not to take the risk. In fact, you should probably never take any risks at all. The only safe thing to do is lock yourself in a closet and have all your meals fed to you intravenously.
Hope this helps,
Dan Strange
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